Dear Maggie,
I’m a pretty happy person, overall. I have a great career, a nice home, cherished pets, and I get along beautifully with my parents and sisters, my brother and my friends. But I want romance in my life, and I don’t have it. I never seem to meet any men who are single. I’ve been looking, but I’m not finding anyone. And some nights, I’m so lonely I just cry myself to sleep. I’m beginning to think I’m doomed to be single forever. Help!
Signed,
Lonely Lady
Dear LL,
There’s good news in your note. You have wanted this so badly that the desire has blasted out of you powerfully. That desire, all by itself, will find the kind of man you want in your life. But the trick is to get him to come to you.
Right now, when you think about him, you think more about the fact that he’s not there yet, and you feel sad and lonely. Those are negative emotions, and they make you a magnet for things that match them – namely, more reasons to feel sad and lonely.