Dear Maggie,

This isn’t as dramatic as some of the letters I’ve seen in your column, but I’d just love to know if you have any ideas. I’m a busy mom. I have a full time job that helps out with the family income, and three small children, and I’m exhausted. There don’t seem to be enough hours in the day to do all that needs to be done, and I constantly run out of time before I’ve finished for the the day. I have enough work to employ a full time housekeeper, nanny, chauffeur, and cook, but since I’m no millionaire, I do it all. Or try to. Do you have any suggestions for finding more time?

Signed,

Manic-Mom

Dear Manic,

First, this is going to pass. It won’t last forever. Hold onto that. Second, remember that you never “get it done.” We’ll all die someday with undone items on our to-do list. Not everything is as important we think it is. The world won’t end if your floors aren’t sparkling.

Try prioritizing things more thoroughly. Make a list of everything you expect to get done in a typical week, then look for things that can be cut. The important things are time for yourself, time with your kids and spouse, healthy meals, your job. I put them in that order because if you don’t take time for yourself, you’ll have nothing to give anyone else. Every woman, no matter how busy, should have 30 to 60 minutes a day (not including a meal) when she can do what she really wants to do, and it’s not allowed to spend it doing for anyone else. Use it to meditate, to exercise, to read, to soak in a tub. Enjoy it, and take it – it’s important.

Other things can be cut. Clubs and groups. E-mail that sucks away your time away. Volunteering for too many mom jobs at school and extra curricular things. Keeping the house spotless is time consuming and impossible. It’s a mess ten minutes later. Start slashing things from your schedule and be ruthless.

Talk to your boss (gently.) In this computer age of instant communications, there is utterly no reason why many of us couldn’t be working from our homes, at least part of the time. Bosses who want to keep young, busy moms in their employ should consider this. If a lot of the work involves putting words on paper, moms would get more done in less time, be less stressed, healthier and happier, do higher quality work and more of it, if the boss would let them try doing part of their job from their home.