Dear Maggie,

I’m in love with two women. They’re very different. One relationship is passionate and really volatile. Up and down, stormy and unpredictable. There are horrible fights sometimes—tears and screaming. But when it’s good it’s very good. I never know what to expect with her. She’s wild and fun and exciting. The other relationship is steady and dependable. There are no crazy fights, but there’s no fiery passion either. The sex is good, but pretty standard and predictable. I’d die of shock if this woman threw something at me or screamed or swore. She’s always there if I need her. I know she and I would last, could raise kids, make a home. But I love the fire and the excitement of the first woman.

What should I do? How should I chose?

Thanks for any advice!

The Man Who Loves Too Much

Dear Man,

You never know what to expect from girl number one? I do. At least, when she finds out about girl number two. And if you think you’ll die of shock when the second girl in your story throws something at you, then you’re in for an early demise when she finds out about number one. =)

I could sit here and ask you things like what’s more important to you, burning hot and bright, but short, or long term plans. I could wax on about how passion could burn out, and how a good woman will always be a good woman. But then again, it might not happen that way at all. I could tell you the sex might get better, but I could be wrong about that too. Fortunately, there’s one thing I’m absolutely sure aobut.