Dear Maggie,

I hope my problem doesn’t seem too trivial for your column. It really isn’t that big a deal. But the thing is, I can’t cook. I can’t cook. I can’t cook. I try, I really do. But everything is either burned to a crisp or served up half raw. My cakes collapse. My meats dry out. My eggs are either runny or hard. I just can’t cook. My new husband’s mom is the best cook I’ve ever met. He’s used to having great meals. We’ve been married three months and he’s lost ten pounds. Help!

Signed,

Kitchen-Nightmare

Dear Nightmare,

No problem is trivial, especially not one that has you so upset that I’m betting you’ve shed tears over it. Would I be wrong? No, I didn’t think so.

So you’re a new wife, and you want to be perfect at it, and live up to the standards set by your hubby’s mom, and make him happy, and you feel like a miserable failure because you can’t cook. (I can remember saying those same three words.) So first, stop saying, “I can’t cook” because every time you say it, you make it more true. You can cook. You just need to learn how. And you’ve got the best resource in the world – your new mother-in-law. Don’t feel embarassed to ask her, because she’s going to love you for it, and you two will bond as you learn all she has to teach you.