Dear Maggie,

I’ve been married for 7 years, and up until now it’s been great. But lately things have been changing. My husband seems distracted when he’s home, and seems to come up with lots of reasons not to be. There’s always something, somewhere, that needs his attention. He works late. Golfs with his buddies on the weekends. Does odd jobs for various friends and neighbors as favors. It’s almost like he’s avoiding me. And he’s not as interested in sex anymore either.

I’m afraid he’s having an affair. I love him and don’t want our marriage to end over this. What should I do?

Signed,

Worried Sick

Dear Worried,

First, stop worrying. Stop being terrified. Relax a little. Begin a daily practice of controlling your mind and your thoughts, because you’re the only one who can. Right now, you’re thinking the worst. You’d be better off thinking the best. Because whichever one you choose to focus on is the one you’re going to get.

I want you to begin right where you are, today. I want you to forget all about yesterday and the day before and the day before that, because you can’t change the past, and besides, it’s over. It’s done. Spending any energy at all on the past is a total waste of time. You are where you are, and where you are is fine. Begin today. Think the best.